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Snowbirds, Don't Ask THAT Question

Yuma, AZ. You don't have to be in a snowbird town more than a couple hours before somebody pops the question. Yep, that question. I've tried everything:
  • boycotting the question in a obviously jocular manner; 
  • ignoring the question, and immediately changing the subject to, say, the weather or the condition of the roads;
  • groaning out loud; 
  • pausing for a noticeable period of time, then sighing, before finally giving a desultory and halting answer. (This is aimed at making them feel guilty.)
I've tried 'em all. I've even tried just answering the question in a brief and neutral way. Nothing works.

What question am I talking about? Aw come on, in a snowbird capital like Yuma? There's something about the body language that usually gives the culprit away, but sometimes they blindside you.

"Soooooooo, where 'ya from?" My entire body locks up in a wince. The worst culprits are those who insist on taking a deadpan answer as a challenge. You can just see the wheels turning in their little head: they simply must discover that their third wife's ex-step-sister-in-law once had a neighbor who taught school in the town you just mentioned, and that you have heard of her.

When they finally discover this tiny linkage, pertaining to a metropolis of 2.4 million people or a corporation with 173,000 employees, they insist on trying to turn it into a conversation. Honestly, I'm more interested in whether 'itz gonna get windy today.'

Well, maybe that's not the worst. There are actually people in a snowbird capital like Yuma who don't know what a full-time RVer is; nor do they understand how tedious it is for us to explain 'how we get our mail.' 

The best solution is to do laundry or go grocery shopping at a place that's open 24 hours.

Comments

Jim and Gayle said…
Can't even guess how many time we've been asked if we're "Winter Texans" since we've been in Mission. Why does everyone have to be labeled?
Wayne (Wirs) said…
Try this next time: Grin and point sky-ward.

Works for me (but then I'm only half joking). :)
Lorraine said…
This is really interesting. I'll keep it in mind for when I relocate to Florida next year. I'm a former New Yorker currently living in northeast PA. People used to ask my husband and I if we were in the witness protection program. lol. I often ask folks, "So were you born and raised in this area?" The answer to that question will tell me a lot about that person right off the bat.
Pat said…
Just repeat the chorus to 'I've been everywhere, man'.
Ed said…
My usual response is "My domicile is Pahrump, NV but I'm from XXXX (my last month long camp"). This will then lead us into a chorus of "Ive been everywhere man ..."

This Snowbird just landed in the wind and dust of North Yuma at about 10:00-10:30. I'll be faced with The Question very soon.
Unknown said…
Since I do have a tendency to talk to anyone, given an opening all the better. My response to that question is, "My last home was in Denver 12 years ago and I've been homeless ever since." That can cause the conversation to head in a number of directions. But like I said, I like to talk to people. Everyone has a story.
I really don't know, I have amnesia :-))
TomInBellaVista said…
You might be able go turn it around by responding with a statement such as, "you are a snowbird aren't you". The conversation can go lots of directions from there.

I have lots of experience with snowbirds and have my own opinions and my own curiosity is limited to identifying snowbirds from Long Island. I've not had much luck having an interesting conversation with LI people. The first comment when any two from LI identify one another is that the water in NY is so much better than here (where ever that might be)
TominOrlando, now, now, that sounds like a little geo-bigotry. Grin. Actually I'm the pot calling the kettle black since I'm like you with snowbirds from B.C. (Bolshevik Columbia.)
XXXXX said…
Gol-ly. THAT Question is one of the best ways to non-intrusively start a conversation with the potential of reaping great results. The small coastal town I live in is full of transplants from other areas and one of the joys of living here is to chat about where ya been and what's it like there. You learn things you can't read in a book....the first hand scoop from those who really know. I'm amazed at your negative reaction.
Aw come on, George. What's the next sentence after 'where ya from?" Do they say, "You know what they say about our weather back in West Mudburg Heights -- wait ten minutes and it'll change!" (Followed by yokelish laughter at their own great wit.) Or maybe it's 'It ain't the heat -- it's the humidity.'

But I guess you are right -- asking where they're from is a harmless way to 'put the ball into play.'

Perhaps I'm too quick to conclude that if they start off with a totally predictable and trite question, the conversation will just keep sinking into commonplaces and cliches.
XXXXX said…
Boonie, I think when two strangers first meet, there is a short period of checking out the other to see if the conversation is worthy to pursue. If reactions are acceptable, some reliability is earned and it becomes safe to delve into more meaningful conversation. It's the sniff test.
George, the "Sniff Test", eh? Maybe that's my problem: I'm like a dog at the dog park who is too choosy and fastidious when sniffing other dogs' butts.
Bob said…
This post gave me a good laugh .. THX!